A Bad Memory
We had a lot of great things happen in our service last Sunday — a baptism, new members, and some guest speakers. If you missed it, click here to watch the recording and remember you can always join us live on Sunday mornings by clicking here at 9:30 AM Eastern.
A few months ago my husband and I celebrated our fourth wedding anniversary. Over dinner, as we do each year, we discussed the past year and how far we’ve come since saying, “I do”.
“I’m just so glad we made it out of that first year alive,” I said relieved.
“Because we fought, like, all the time!”
“It wasn’t that bad,” he shrugged.
My jaw dropped in disbelief.
I don’t know how it goes for most marriages, but the first year of ours was a bit rough. As we transitioned from just people who were dating to people who were also roommates, we found a lot to fight over. Some of the times, I was the instigator and some times it was my husband. And the memories, while they do fade with each passing year, are still deep within the recesses of my mind.
My husband, on the other hand, has the worst memory when it comes to fights. Once he has said either the phrase, “I’m sorry,” or “I forgive you,” it’s as if the issue never even happened.
(In related news, I’ve got it good.)
This past Sunday as we continued our journey through The Apostles’ Creed, we touched on the section that says, “I believe in the forgiveness of sins.”
For those of us who know Jesus, this part of the creed transcends so many areas of our life:
- FORGIVENESS OF OUR SINS: We believe that, by sending His son Jesus to die for us, God has redeemed all of our failures already. We may not live perfect lives, but we have a perfect God who loved us enough to pay the price for us.
- FORGIVENESS OF OTHERS’ SINS: Let’s face it; it felt really good to be the “right” one in a fight with my husband. But what felt even better was, after he apologized, being able to say, “I forgive you”, and let the weight of my anger float off of my heart.
- FORGIVENESS OF OUR OWN SINS: Honestly, the hardest part about fighting with my husband is forgiving myself for wronging him. I always feel so plagued with guilt after an argument in which I was the perpetrator. Maybe I’m wrong (actually, I hope I am) but I’d argue that one of the hardest things for us to do as a society is forgive ourselves. But when we are in Christ, and we say this part of the creed, we have to believe that we, too, are forgiven. Completely. When we accept forgiveness, it means we can’t feel guilty about our failures anymore because it’s as if they never happened.
Sometimes grace doesn’t make sense. It doesn’t seem sensible to mess up but still be loved. But that’s what this whole thing is about.
It’s easy to write someone off when they’ve failed. And that’s what makes Jesus so radical. Because when we say that we’re screw ups, he says that we are forgiven. And then when we say to God, like I say to my husband, “But don’t you remember that time when I screwed up so badly?”, He says, “No.”
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